Setting it as NSFW due to the sensitivity of the topic. Doing it as a kind of self-therapy kind of thing as I kept it a secret for majority of my life, feel free to ask me anything.

  • FRANK
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    1 year ago

    Do you feel safe in ‘CSA Survivor’ specific spaces? If not, do you think it’s because of inherent problems with the function of these spaces/groups, or something personal to you? Do you relate to others posts or talking about CSA, or do you feel like an outlier at times/unable to relate or connect? (Ignore if N/A)

    • Tal🌸OP
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      I am not aware of those spaces and I don’t know much other CSA survivors, currently I find refuge in a paraphile community as people are more understanding and the topic doesn’t feel that much of a taboo making it easier to speak about it.

      I can relate to some other posts, but only on the mental health topics, I haven’t heard a story in any way similar to mine, probably because most of people wouldn’t even perceive it as abuse, unless they have experienced it themselves.

    • Tal🌸OP
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      A lot I would say, a large majority of my fetishes are somewhat related to the event, where those topics also can make me have an anxiety attack if I’m not in the mood. It’s a really strange thing which I still to this day not really understand and make me feel invalidated at times, because why do I keep fantasizing about it and everything around it if I would rather die than experience it again?

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    1 year ago

    Have you found a sense of community with other survivors?

    • Tal🌸OP
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      I don’t know much other survivors, but I guess? There are plenty in the paraphile community as far as I know. Though, I have talked with maybe two, and a lot of them went through worse things than I did making me feel a bit fake, but that’s something I need to work with myself

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      Contrary to what others may think, I don’t think that event was motivated by any sexual desire from the abuser, especially that the event happened in front of my clueless parents. She abused her position as a pediatrician, maybe she wanted to show she’s in power here and I wasn’t allowed to disagree? I don’t know. What was happening was so ambiguous to me I only learned that there was something wrong when I was 19 years old, but all the trauma and anxiety was with me all this time and to this day affects me a lot to the point of disability in certain things.

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        You refer to your abuse as an event. So was it a singular incident? Or did it occur over a prolonged period?

        • Tal🌸OP
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          It happened once when I was 12, would’ve happened more if not my absolute refusal to my parents.

          When I was an older teen (~15 to ~18) I had doctor appointments of similar nature - nothing serious, just checkups, thought not really initiated by me. I strongly refused them, sometimes with threats, but it worked. It felt like I was losing control all over again, as if I was a public property to be looked at and touched on request. Those were the months where my anxiety disorder peaked and there wasn’t anything else I could think about, all my actions were based on just protecting myself - today it’s better, I’m trying to analyze situations and not make impulsive and potentially destructive decisions, though my trust to doctors is permanently gone.

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    Fuck, that’s awful :(

    Do you have struggles forming intimate relationships because of it?

    • Tal🌸OP
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      There’s a certain level of trust I have to gain before I am able to be nude in someone presence, otherwise I just panic. I’m comfortable with my current boyfriend though and I trust him a lot