yesterday, with some much needed help and encouragement from a user on nnia.space, I was able to come out to my partner. i told him pretty much everything, about how i feel transage and that i feel attraction towards minors. i thought for sure that it was a secret i would carry to the grave. i thought if anyone ever found out they would hate me. but apparently i’m the luckiest boy alive, because now my boyfriend knows i’m a MAP, and he still loves me. he was really understanding, kind, and accepting.
ever since then, all i can think about is how much this feels like i’m living in some kind of dream. i can just… be myself? i don’t know how to do that, really.
but for the first time in my life, i feel like there’s hope for us, there are people who can understand that we’re an oppressed minority, and not just irrationally hate us. there may be a future where MAPs and other paras get to live their lives being, at least, tolerated, rather than reviled. i don’t know if i’ll ever live to see that day, but i hope so, and i am going to try to do my part to make that day a reality.
much love and para solidarity!
I’m really glad to hear it went so well. do you have any tips for others who are thinking of doing the same?
yeah! what helped me was starting by explaining that i felt really scared to admit it, and anxious about how he would feel about me. just putting everything i was feeling into words helped a lot, and gave him a cue to prepare himself for quite a big secret.
honestly, i kinda already felt quite sure that he would still love and accept me before i told him. i don’t think i could have if i had any serious doubts
I have a few tips. You can test the water by asking them general questions like their feelings on YAPs. Have a back up plan if they react negatively.