Big list of arguments I’ve seen and some counters
Anti Para Arguments
“Go to therapy to fix your attraction”
Counter: Not possible in most cases. Conversion therapy rhetoric. A lot of paras don’t want to get rid of their attraction. Not all paras are disordered. It can be dangerous to disclose your para to a therapist
“You shouldn’t be proud of this”
Counter: Being proud of yourself never hurts anyone. Pride is a rebellion against a society that hates you. Requiring paraphiles to hate themselves to be accepted is extremely cruel. A paraphilia is nothing to be ashamed of.
“You should kys so you don’t hurt people”
Counter: Paras are no more likely to hurt someone than non-paraphiles. Telling someone to kill themselves is never okay.
You should be kept away from kids/animals/(insert thing you’re attracted to)"
Counter: Paraphiles are capeable of self control. Just bc you’re attracted to someone doesn’t mean you’re going to hurt them, people have crushes on people who don’t like them back all the time.
Anti Transrace Arguments
“That’s cultural appropition”
Counter: Cultural approption is when a piece of a culture is taken from its orginal context and history. Transrace people are not taking anything from its orginal context and history. The majority of transrace people are respectful in the way they learn about and practice their culture.
“You support blackface”
Counter: Blackface is something done by racists to make fun of and demonise black people. A transrace affirming their identity is not making fun of anyone.
“You’re fetishing poc”
Counter: There is a big difference between having a fetish for something and identfying as that thing. Fetishes are not inherently bad, it’s okay to have fetishes and express those fetishes. This is just the autogynophile terf argument.
“You just have internilised racism” (usually used against POCTW people specfically)
Counter: Internilised racism is a seperate thing, there is a difference between “I want to be x bc it feels most right to me” and “I want to be x bc people told me being y is wrong”. Different people deal with internilised racism in different ways, if someone wants to deal with it by identfying as transrace they should be allowed to do so.
Running low on spoons, might be back with more later.
Big list of arguments I’ve seen and some counters
Anti Para Arguments
“Go to therapy to fix your attraction” Counter: Not possible in most cases. Conversion therapy rhetoric. A lot of paras don’t want to get rid of their attraction. Not all paras are disordered. It can be dangerous to disclose your para to a therapist
“You shouldn’t be proud of this” Counter: Being proud of yourself never hurts anyone. Pride is a rebellion against a society that hates you. Requiring paraphiles to hate themselves to be accepted is extremely cruel. A paraphilia is nothing to be ashamed of.
“You should kys so you don’t hurt people” Counter: Paras are no more likely to hurt someone than non-paraphiles. Telling someone to kill themselves is never okay.
You should be kept away from kids/animals/(insert thing you’re attracted to)" Counter: Paraphiles are capeable of self control. Just bc you’re attracted to someone doesn’t mean you’re going to hurt them, people have crushes on people who don’t like them back all the time.
Anti Transrace Arguments
“That’s cultural appropition” Counter: Cultural approption is when a piece of a culture is taken from its orginal context and history. Transrace people are not taking anything from its orginal context and history. The majority of transrace people are respectful in the way they learn about and practice their culture.
“You support blackface” Counter: Blackface is something done by racists to make fun of and demonise black people. A transrace affirming their identity is not making fun of anyone.
“You’re fetishing poc” Counter: There is a big difference between having a fetish for something and identfying as that thing. Fetishes are not inherently bad, it’s okay to have fetishes and express those fetishes. This is just the autogynophile terf argument.
“You just have internilised racism” (usually used against POCTW people specfically) Counter: Internilised racism is a seperate thing, there is a difference between “I want to be x bc it feels most right to me” and “I want to be x bc people told me being y is wrong”. Different people deal with internilised racism in different ways, if someone wants to deal with it by identfying as transrace they should be allowed to do so.
Running low on spoons, might be back with more later.