Hi!! I’m having a lot of trouble because since it’s pride month, I’ve been browsing the aroace tags on tumblr. But there’s a LOT of discourse and a lot of aros who aren’t romance repulsed seem to be shoved out… and it makes me feel like I’m not aroace enough? Because I love Alastor and my partner sys… Because I’m in a romantic relationship…
I feel really, really bad… And I don’t really know what to do… Would it be bad for me to take TransAroace (or even just transaro) to cope with feeling inadequate for the community?
I’ve been on the verge of tears because of this all day.
It’s totally okay!!
I’m weird as quoiromantic I don’t get how romance is special enough to be repulsed by but I also am kinda interested in abolishing it as a concept (in a similar way to my gender abolishism where I’m okay with people having gender and I even have a gender but I feel it’s arbitrary and restrictive and that a progressing society will naturally and gradually move past it)
Like I feel the “healthier” romantic and platonic relationships get, the more indistinguishable they get from each other, because a lot of “toxic” behaviors in these relationships come from arbitrary and unfair expectations and limitations.