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  • sewerqueertoTransorientation Regarding the Concept
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    21 days ago

    Sorry it has taken me a long time to respond but I was dealing with the hurricane and looking back, I felt like we were misunderstanding each other in this conversation. The way I am understanding sexual orientation is different from your definition. For me, transitioning would mean putting my physiology in concordance with what my mind desires. So not really changing what my mind wants in any way. Not that I think that is necessarily bad, as people can be of different minds.

    I do want to clear up some things you mentioned in the last reply, but I don’t want to come off as hostile. In my case, my transorientation would not make me more “Christian-passing”. I am straight to gay and allo to demi(?best descriptor I know of) because I want to be aroused only by my partners, and we have trauma regarding heterosexuality. I DON’T think being straight is wrong, it’s simply uncomfortable for me to deal with straight sexual content as it triggers memories of my abuse. I also have additive transorientation regarding wanting to be aroused by certain kinks (farts, scat, vore).

    If you’re claiming you reduced a desire on purpose and it did you no harm, I frankly just don’t believe you. You’re disregarding a harm that was done.

    I still disagree that harm is inevitably done by reducing desires on purpose. Some desires can be objectively dangerous. It doesn’t even have to be in the realm of sexual desire. Some people find it hard to leave abusers because they love them even though they beat them. If I were attracted to people who were abusing me, I might want to stop feeling attracted to them so that I can leave the situation.

    Thinking that it is generally good to be able to change what you want is a category error.

    People have conflicting feelings about what they want all the time, and deciding which desires are more important to you is something everyone does.

    you’re effectively saying internalized phobias do not exist.

    I’m not saying that. I’m just saying that internalized phobia is not always the reason for wanting to transition. There can also be other reasons, such as trauma, which I don’t think should be condemned but people should always introspect about why they want certain things.

    Being transsexual (I use this word in this case specifically because I’m talking about people who medically transition) is inherently different from other forms of transid because none of the other ones are something it makes any kind of sense to take a pill about.

    Again, respectfully I disagree. Transracial people sometimes use medications and undergo surgical procedures. Transabled and transsevere people can use pills and other medical treatments.

    It’s pretty pointless to say you want something that you think the correct amount of time spent on it, even in your brain, is zero.

    I don’t want to think about it at all because it is an intrusive thought, not a desire. I want to get rid of my intrusive thoughts to be in concordance with what I actually desire.


  • sewerqueertoTransorientation Regarding the Concept
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    That is specifically not part of orientation, or else your orientation would change because you have erectile dysfunction.

    I feel like arousal is part of orientation, or at least, an individual’s sexuality. If I want to get turned on by men but can only get turned on by women, doesn’t that say something about my orientation or sexuality?

    It is not generally wrong to want that for yourself, no. However, it is, generally speaking, incorrect.

    My desire to reduce attraction is incorrect? Can you explain what you mean? Is it factually incorrect? Morally incorrect?

    You cannot change what you want, only deny it. It does often change by itself, but it’s almost never a thing you consciously control without self-harm.

    I’m not sure what you are referring to as “what you want”. If it’s referring to our mental desires or behavior - I somewhat disagree. I have had certain preferences reduce or increase over time as a result of my own behaviors. I felt no physical or mental harm from this. Granted, it was not a complete change, but a tilting of the scale.

    Reducing one’s sexuality is specifically pretty much the worst thing you can try to do to yourself. In practical terms, it is conversion therapy. Don’t do that!

    But you are okay with expanding it? That can also be conversion therapy. In one case, someone wants to have no attraction because society tells them that’s morally correct, while another person wants to be attracted to something because society tells them that’s morally correct.

    The problem with conversion therapy IMO is that it is often forced onto an individual who doesn’t want it, the individual is choosing it because of societal or religious doctrines, stigma, phobia, and most methods involve traumatic aversion therapy and medications that end up causing physical and emotional harm. I do think as technology and science advances, we’ll find safer and better ways to allow people to transition in any and all facets they want.

    “Okay with gays but I don’t want to be one” is the oldest trick in internalized homophobia’s book[…]telling yourself it’s just another aspect of your self-authorship is a cope

    With that logic, FtM are sexist because they’re not okay with being female, which is the oldest trick in the TERF’s book. Same goes for transracial and racism. Discomfort towards engaging in (or identifying as) something yourself doesn’t mean that you hate people who participate in that, neither does it mean you think it’s “wrong”. I don’t like camping, but I don’t hate people who go camping or think it’s wrong.

    All of the reasons a person might want to get rid of their attractions are actually reasons they should be engaging in the spicy fantasy play

    Some people do not even want to bother with fantasy play, because they’d rather do other things with their time.


  • sewerqueertoTransorientation Regarding the Concept
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    1 month ago

    My understanding of orientation* is that there are multiple components to it besides mental desire, such as physical arousal (and perhaps actions, though that is debated). For instance maybe someone has the mental desire to have sex with a certain gender, or wants to have a certain kink, but has trouble being physically aroused.

    *-Though perhaps, this is better described as “sexuality”…unfortunately, transsexuality seems to mean something different most of the time…

    On the flip side, I also think there is nothing inherently wrong with wanting to reduce or eliminate attraction to others. Attraction can take up a lot of mental bandwidth, and maybe some people want to focus on things other than romance and sex, or avoid attraction to things that have caused them trauma or distress.

    I don’t think it’s (always / necessarily) internalized phobia. I don’t hate others who have sexuality like my current one, it just doesn’t align with my internal conception of myself. That would be like saying transgender people must have internalized sexism towards their AGAB. I do think, with any transid, it’s good to do some self reflection though and consider what may be causing the desire for change.












  • sewerqueertoTransautisticAutistic takeover
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    5 months ago

    I love this idea! I see autistic people and the concept of characters as having strong connections. I think a lot of autistic people tend to view themselves in a character-like way, much more commonly than allistics do. Also I’m definitely autistic 4 autistic as I much prefer to have intimate relationships with others who are more likely to understand my cognition/quirks AND not belittle me for them. 😁 I headcanon my fictional crush as autistic as he is loved my many autistic people who make fan fics of him, so naturally the autistic behavior “rubs off” onto the character.


  • sewerqueertoRadqueerRadqueer Music!
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    6 months ago

    MARINA has a lot of relevant songs. Ancient Dreams In A Modern Land is another one I like. “I am not my body, not my mind or my brain” apparently it was very popular in therian tiktok, it also feels transhumanist to me.


  • sewerqueertoRadqueerRadqueer Music!
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    6 months ago

    Agreed t.A.T.u. songs were great, one of their main songwriters was an anarchist and also worked on a project called Little Foxes that has youthlib/YAY vibes. I posted about it in my reply here :3


  • sewerqueertoRadqueerRadqueer Music!
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    6 months ago

    Posted this on the crosspost, posting here too:

    • Demi Lovato - Cool for the Summer (AAM/MAP, gay)\

    • Little Foxes - We Can Win Anything (MAM, youthlib) - from the anarchist poet/lyricist who wrote t.A.T.u. lyrics

    • Matilda the Musical - Revolting Children (Youthlib)

    • Dicks - Little Boys’ Feet (MAP, bisexual)

    • Fast Draw - Lolita Complex (MAP)

    • Kagamine Rin - Kahlua Milk Sensation (AAM, teacher/student)

    • Sam The Sham & The Pharaohs - Little Red Riding Hood (MAP) (Also the Amanda Seyfried version)

    • Sia - Elastic Heart (AAM/MAP, just the music video)

    • Michael Jackson - Ghosts (the full film is VERY AAM/MAP coded), and it kind of hints at the “anti” projecting their own self-loathing)

    • Michael Jackson - They Don’t Care About Us (queer / bipoc riot song. personally I prefer the Prison Version)

    • Michael Jackson - Why You Wanna Trip On Me? (live and let live, proship vibes)

    • Michael Jackson - Off the Wall (queer / alternative lifestyle vibes)

    • Michael Jackson - Childhood (transage) 🎶people say I’m not okay because I love such elementary things🎶

    • Michael Jackson - The Lost Children (transage)

    • Michael Jackson & Roberta Flack - When We Grow Up (transage)

    • Michael Jackson - Ben (AAM/MAP, or loving someone who is hated)

    • Michael Jackson - PYT (MAP)

    • Michael Jackson - TWYMMF (taboo, sugarbaby/daddy, AAM/MAP) “ain’t nobody’s business but mine and my baby”

    • Michael Jackson - Monster (MAP)

    • Michael Jackson - Dirty Diana (old/young, light biasto, cheating)

    • Michael Jackson - In the Closet (taboo) Can you tell I’m a MJ fan?? lol

    • Animotion - Obsession (stalking)

    • Kesha - Warrior (queer vibes)

    • Halestorm - Freak Like Me (queer vibes)

    • Oingo Boingo - Weird Science (robophilia)

    • The Dresden Dolls - Coin Operated Boy (objectum, robophilia)

    • The Dresden Dolls - Girl Anachronism (transtime, gneral insanity)

    • S3RL - MTC saga (fictophilia)

    • S3RL - Silicon XX (robophilia)

    • Gayrilla Biscuits - Suck on my Balls (transorientation)

    • Gayrilla Biscuits - I Can’t Believe that You’re Not Gay (transorientation)

    • Gayrilla Biscuits - Be Gay (transorientation)

    • Screeching Weasel - I Wanna Be a Homosexual (transorientation)

    • Peter Pan the Musical - I Won’t Grow Up (transage)

    • Blueberry Sunshine - Act my Age (transage)

    • 4Lung - Blood Orgy (transage - specifically shouts out transage)

    • Bjork - Isobel (autoeroticism / “selfcest”)

    • Bjork - The Modern Things (queer)

    • Bjork - Declare Independence (queer / revolutionary)

    • Bjork - Pluto (trans*)

    • Last but not least: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B1ns0mxIdWc


  • sewerqueertoPost Of The WeekRadqueer Music!
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    6 months ago
    • Demi Lovato - Cool for the Summer (AAM/MAP, gay)\

    • Little Foxes - We Can Win Anything (MAM, youthlib) - from the anarchist poet/lyricist who wrote t.A.T.u. lyrics

    • Matilda the Musical - Revolting Children (Youthlib)

    • Dicks - Little Boys’ Feet (MAP, bisexual)

    • Fast Draw - Lolita Complex (MAP)

    • Kagamine Rin - Kahlua Milk Sensation (AAM, teacher/student)

    • Sam The Sham & The Pharaohs - Little Red Riding Hood (MAP) (Also the Amanda Seyfried version)

    • Sia - Elastic Heart (AAM/MAP, just the music video)

    • Michael Jackson - Ghosts (the full film is VERY AAM/MAP coded), and it kind of hints at the “anti” projecting their own self-loathing)

    • Michael Jackson - They Don’t Care About Us (queer / bipoc riot song. personally I prefer the Prison Version)

    • Michael Jackson - Why You Wanna Trip On Me? (live and let live, proship vibes)

    • Michael Jackson - Off the Wall (queer / alternative lifestyle vibes)

    • Michael Jackson - Childhood (transage) 🎶people say I’m not okay because I love such elementary things🎶

    • Michael Jackson - The Lost Children (transage)

    • Michael Jackson & Roberta Flack - When We Grow Up (transage)

    • Michael Jackson - Ben (AAM/MAP, or loving someone who is hated)

    • Michael Jackson - PYT (MAP)

    • Michael Jackson - TWYMMF (taboo, sugarbaby/daddy, AAM/MAP) “ain’t nobody’s business but mine and my baby”

    • Michael Jackson - Monster (MAP)

    • Michael Jackson - Dirty Diana (old/young, light biasto, cheating)

    • Michael Jackson - In the Closet (taboo) Can you tell I’m a MJ fan?? lol

    • Animotion - Obsession (stalking)

    • Kesha - Warrior (queer vibes)

    • Halestorm - Freak Like Me (queer vibes)

    • Oingo Boingo - Weird Science (robophilia)

    • The Dresden Dolls - Coin Operated Boy (objectum, robophilia)

    • The Dresden Dolls - Girl Anachronism (transtime, gneral insanity)

    • S3RL - MTC saga (fictophilia)

    • S3RL - Silicon XX (robophilia)

    • Gayrilla Biscuits - Suck on my Balls (transorientation)

    • Gayrilla Biscuits - I Can’t Believe that You’re Not Gay (transorientation)

    • Gayrilla Biscuits - Be Gay (transorientation)

    • Screeching Weasel - I Wanna Be a Homosexual (transorientation)

    • Peter Pan the Musical - I Won’t Grow Up (transage)

    • Blueberry Sunshine - Act my Age (transage)

    • 4Lung - Blood Orgy (transage - specifically shouts out transage)

    • Bjork - Isobel (autoeroticism / “selfcest”)

    • Bjork - The Modern Things (queer)

    • Bjork - Declare Independence (queer / revolutionary)

    • Bjork - Pluto (trans*)

    • Last but not least: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B1ns0mxIdWc