I think she does not like me anymore.

I have a very close friend which I know a very long time and a few years ago I trusted her with my paraphilias. While she dealed with that very well sometimes the thought crosses my mind that she might think I am disgusting in secret.

I asked her if she actually likes me even when she does not understand my sexual pleasures. She did not answer. Than I asked her if she hates me. She said ironically that she does.

While I know that she meant with that that she does not hate me it was not what I was hoping to hear. What I wanted to hear was something like “No, I do not hate you” After that little talk we got both very quiet and I had to hold back my tears.

And the fact that she did not tell me directly what her feelings are worries me.

What if she actulally hates me? What if she just could not say that into my face? What if she is only my friend because we know each other very long and she has nobody else?

I would like to ask her about that but I am not sure how. I dont want to sound akward or offensive.

Do you also had such experiences and do you have some advice? What do you think about my situation? I know I overthink too much but I cannot stop it.

  • Lara Croft (Real)English
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    2 months ago

    You gotta tell your close friend that you want to improve and to start rejecting your paraphilias.

    LMAO What??? sorry maybe that sounds too aggresive but thats the best way to put my thoughts into words

    Why should anyone reject any part of themselves just to maintain a friendship with the same person that wants them to reject themselves? Would you tell a gay person to be less gay so their straight friends see theyre “trying to improve”? in that story you shared, your exfriend is a major dickhead, faking theyre supportive and suddenly telling you to change and then abandoning you by deleting all ways you could contact them in, not even having the courage to just tell you they dont want to talk with you anymore and switching from not communicating their feelings at all to trying to manipulate you out of something about you that they dont like

    If there is anything to improve about yourself then of course do that, but if you do not hurt anyone you do not deserve to be hurt by others to get you to “”“improve”“”