Maybe

Use your tertiary attention and try to intensive them. Like Platonic to Romantik Aesthetic/Sensual to Sexual

If you have libido use that too.

Do you have squishes ? Try to make it i to a typcal romantic thought.

Im myself on the A-Spec Panromantic Bisexual, so i can help just a bit.

Idk if I agree with acephobe strategy.

I’m aroallo pansexual who is debateably ace depending on how you define things and how you consider grey areas. Part of ID is semantics and framing and I think you can use that to ur benefit.

I’m biased being quoiromantic but I feel like romantic attraction really isn’t that distinct from other forms of attraction. So if you experience let’s say platonic attraction, perhaps you can frame that as romantic attraction. Because how romantic attraction can manifest is varied and there like infinite overlap in resulting behavior and lack thereof.

Basically manifesting an internal redefinition of romantic attraction and one that can still square with external observers.

As for asexual to sexual, maybe you can also do some reframing. I find sexuality harder to reframe because it feels more of like a specific thing to me. It helps that I’m high libido I suppose. If you have any libidio and can find mastrubation a pleasurable use of time you may be able find someone to mastrubate to and consider them a subject of your sexual attraction. You can also frame your sexual attraction as limited. Like mine is pretty limited in that it can mostly be explained by fictosexual and demisexual (plus I guess I’m attracted to people I see in porn, or maybe sometimes I just like the acts) and I’m arguably greysexual but that’s not how I tend to frame it.

If you’re serious about wanting to do that, you should start with the framing an acephobe would have: you aren’t aroace. You experience anxiety about sex because of shame. Seeing it that way gives you something to debug.

An important thing to recognize is that if you didn’t already identify as aroace, this would also be a therapist’s assumption if you told them how you feel about sex. So, get a therapist and tell them you want to understand why you have trouble relating to others and/or your body.