Hello Picnicparty!

I can’t tell which instances are the “best” but I can recommend you some which I really like from my experiences.

Oddballs.online(mainly an art instance, complex contact)

Mapsupport.de (Pro para instance which is mainly focussed on maps but not limited to, anti contact)

Paarvielfalt.zone(anti contact)

nnia.space (anti contact)

nnia.cc (anti contact)

I hope I could help you! 😊