It hurts, sometimes, having to hide this from people who mean more to me than my own family.

I rather recently had a few hopes dashed that a very dear friend of mine might at least understand, though thankfully I was able to avoid suspicion.

So, while I don’t want to have my hopes too high in future, I also wouldn’t want to miss getting to be… me, with people I could really trust.

So. Any ideas for how to better tell who could be “safe”, for trying to figure if someone near and dear might have the heart to know?

I understand if not. Doubt I’m the first to struggle here. But, hey, maybe there’s a discussion to be had, maybe someone will have some brilliant idea, maybe we can at least trade tales of times we were crushed by the sudden realization that someone who means the world to us would leave if they ever found out.

  • Sofia
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    11 months ago

    Unfortunately I can’t give much advice about that, I’m extremely open about being an ally but that’s because:
    Being an ally carries a smaller risk to begin with.
    I don’t care about ostracization, if someone would cut me off for being an ally, I don’t want them near me to begin with, no exceptions.

    Honestly, if I were a MAP myself and in the US/UK I probably wouldn’t tell anyone offline (or that could find me offline) at all, but I don’t know about your situation. I know most people care about being ostracized far more than me, and that’s a big risk.

    (Also sorry for the delay, I don’t check this much)