Even if I might not fully grasp every identity, trying to dictate other’s experiences for them feels bad.
There was a time where I was in an autism Discord server, and they randomly decided to ban transautistics from being in the server. Especially back then, I didn’t really know what that was, but it felt wrong. Like there was a bad taste in my mouth. The taste was new yet familiar.
It would be very easy to shrug it off and pretend it doesn’t affect me, but as a cis-paraphile I know what it’s like to be ostracized and no matter how much bullying I’ve gone through, I will never let myself stand on the other side. Making others miserable does not feel pleasant. I want to be the accepting and gentle ally that I never had.
Even with a few different transids, there’s still a lot I don’t understand about certain other transids and paraphiles, but that’s no reason to be rude or exclusionary. People tend to have a gut reaction to things they don’t understand, it’s good to train ourselves out of it, and actually just learn to listen.