Even if I might not fully grasp every identity, trying to dictate other’s experiences for them feels bad.

There was a time where I was in an autism Discord server, and they randomly decided to ban transautistics from being in the server. Especially back then, I didn’t really know what that was, but it felt wrong. Like there was a bad taste in my mouth. The taste was new yet familiar.

It would be very easy to shrug it off and pretend it doesn’t affect me, but as a cis-paraphile I know what it’s like to be ostracized and no matter how much bullying I’ve gone through, I will never let myself stand on the other side. Making others miserable does not feel pleasant. I want to be the accepting and gentle ally that I never had.